By Azim Jamal and Harvey McKinnon
I really like this book a lot because I believe in this idea of giving. Hence, I have extracted some parts of the book which I will like to remember.
Giving can reduces your fear. That’s because giving promotes social connections, which provide you with greater security. The best way to confront your fears is to begin the process of making a difference.
The root causes of “dangers” are often the result of social problems that have been ignored. But you can make a commitment to do what you can to eliminate the conditions that cause the potential crises.
Giving reduces self-centeredness. It can make you feel more connected to others and this connection will reduce fear and isolation. A priest was sharing a story about newborn twins, one of whom was ill. The twins were in separate incubators as per hospital rules. A nurse on the floor repeatedly suggested that the twins be kept together in one incubator. The doctors finally agreed to try this. When the twins were brought into contact with each other, the healthy twin immediately put his arms around his sick brother.
This instinctive exchange gradually helped the sick twin to recover and regain his health. The babies’ family and the doctors witnessed the intangible force of love and the incredible power of giving.
Forgiving people for past mistakes and hurts is also a way to express love, and forgiveness is a wonderful thing to give. Like you, other people are only imperfect humans. Keeping hurt and anger in your life is often an excuse to avoid getting close to people for fear they will hurt you again. People want to know that they are special in your life and that you care about them.
Someone who has hurt you is also hurting; maybe with your kindness this hurt will go away. Sometimes you are hurt and the last thing you want to do is give especially to someone who has hurt you. But maybe that person is hurting too. People often hurt others because they themselves are hurting. Their pain does not justify their actions, of course, but it does help you understand why they do what they do.
When you give to people living on the edge of survival, you know that the help you give creates hope. We believe that if there is any hope for the world to grow less unkind and even less brutal, this hope comes from the actions of people like you. Charity may begin at home, but the world is your home and all citizens are your neighbours. We urge you, therefore, to consider giving to people in the poorest part of the world. Imagine what just one of your dollars is worth when exchanged for currency in the developing world – it is the daily salary for more than one billion people.
Tracy Gary and Melissa Kohner, authors of Inspired Philanthropy wrote :” Giving of your time and money is more than simply doing good. It is a conscious, international act to weave oneself into a caring culture.” As you give time and money to do good, you strengthen the social fabric of your community, which extends to the four corners of the world. Every act is a strand in weaving a cloth of strength, comfort, care and love.